Ran across this in my memories from 8 years ago over on my old blog and it was relevant to a friend so I sent it to her. If you need to read it, I hope it helps you too!
Facebook Status of "friend:"
_____ is trying to learn how to put herself first. Any tips?
She received a few good comments that made me smile knowing she has some good people on her friend list:
1. Take a mandatory 1 hour a day doing what you want to do (eat ice cream, catch up on your fav magazine or go get a mani/pedi).
2. LOL Kelli...not only knowing but USING the word "no" is the first step
Not feeling guilty about using it is the second
Not needing to use it anymore is the third
3. Make a list of everything you want to do and just do it! No apologies, no excuses, no guilt! Once you get used to putting yourself first, you won't go back!
My response was simple. To the casual observer...the simplicity may seem flippant but it's oh-so-true.
JUST DO IT.
I don't understand this idea that anyone should be better taken care of than you by you. I mean yes...I understand the concept of putting your children first and why so that's a given but even as a parent...you need to find that space to be solid with you cuz without it...you won't be solid enough for others.
IN MY OPINION.
In Monnie-land I reign Queen Supreme. I've built a life for myself that allowed me to take the time I needed for me and it gives me what I need to nourish those I love. If I didn't have the kind of time to and for myself now things would get hectic but trust me when I say the last person that would be neglected would be me. When I'm dealing with something I hear the following often: "We don't see or hear from you anymore."
My answer to that?
I was giving me the time and attention I needed. I have a little extra time and attention to spread around now so what's up?
Cuz that's how I roll. I come before all others. I nurture myself before I even THINK about someone else. Might sound selfish or it just might be the building block missing in a lot of folks' stairway to happy-ness.
Reign Supreme in your life. Take the time you need to be all you desire to be.
Love you...mean it,
P.S. Do YOU reign supreme in YOUR life?