The Mundane and Me

“The struggle to be your own version of great can be oh, so real. Sometimes, even the simplest of things like getting out of bed, putting gas in your car or folding clothes can get the best of you. I’m a great list maker. My follow through suffers on anything that isn’t a passion for me. The benign tasks of everyday life seem to not be what I’m here for...and yet...they continue to be necessary to do.”
— Monica Mingo, January 2015

Someone I love left something they love at my house.  They know good and well that I'm not the kind of person who ships or mails stuff.  I don't know why really...I just never seem to be able to follow through with that.  I feel bad about it but I can't change it.  No matter what.

Prior to them leaving my house I told them to double check to see if they left anything.  We laughed remembering that I hate shipping stuff.  Thirty minutes after they'd left...I was cleaning up and found the thing they love.

UGH!

They set me up for failure.

I put the thing at the front door so I wouldn't forget to ship it back to them and, within a few days, I went to ship it but the place I went couldn't guarantee that it wouldn't be broken when it arrived because they didn't have the supplies needed to send it according to what their list said they'd need.

JOY.

So I brought it back home with every intention of shipping it from New Orleans.  Well...when I was next in New Orleans, I ended up getting to the city too late to ship it from the place near where I was going to be.

*sigh*

Then it was going to go back with a mutual friend, but the mutual friend and I didn't get together when we said we'd get together so I couldn't hand it off.

So...it's been back where it's been.  And it's been added to.  I've added a couple of gifts to it but hell...makes no nevermind when it's still here and not THERE.

And I pass by it every.single.day.

But the only time I think about it is the brief second my eyes light on it.

I don't know why this is a constant in my life and I swear I've tried my best to be better at it.  You have no idea how much stuff I found when I was packing up 13700 that I'd purchased for someone I love.  Clothes that children I purchased them for have outgrown.  Fabulous gifts for fabulous people because I only buy things for people I love that I would buy for myself.  

I'm not proud of this.  I'm truly not.  But the good Lord Himself knows that it will probably always happen.  It's my negative THING.  The thing I can't shake no matter what.

Unless I have a PASSION for it, I have no desire to do it and so...it seems to never get done.  *sigh*

Anyone else have this issue?

Or is it just me?

Compromising in a Relationship

A framily member and I were discussing happy marriages and compromising.  Curious as to what some of you think of a particular scenario.

Being happily married means that both people feel like they always consider the other during times when compromise is necessary but...what if there is no clear compromise for one person?  What if the only thing that will make one person happy completely goes against what the other person wants?  How does that resolve itself in your opinion?  I mean sure...you'd want your spouse to be happy but never at the cost of you being unhappy right?

For example...

Someone wanted to build a house the size of a castle.

Their spouse did not.

They built the house the size of a castle.

Three years later, the castle was up for sale because they were getting a divorce.

They were getting a divorce because the spouse hated the house and that what they wanted was never taken into consideration while building the house.  And the cost of the house was so far outside of what they knew they could afford but the one spouse felt they could never say anything or the other spouse would be unhappy.

So yeah...that never really worked itself out.

Is it honestly selfish to really just want what you want because if you compromise you'll never truly get what you want?  

Coffee Comfort

I was talking to someone the other day when I remembered I needed to put in an order for another 5lb bag of the coffee we prefer to drink.  She then asked me a question that I ended up thinking about later.

“Do you really love coffee that much or do you simply love the ritual of morning coffee?””

At the time I told her that I really enjoyed my coffee but now I'm sitting here wondering if what she said had any merit to it as I'm an extremely habitual person.  When I don't have my morning coffee I'm not in much of a good mood but...what if it's not because of the actual COFFEE and has more to do with my being a creature of habit and my morning didn't start off normally?

What do YOU think?  Is it the coffee for you or...is it the RITUAL?  

Should She Be Charged?

There are more than a few things that irked me about this entire story.  

1.  The caption on that picture.  Why is it necessary to make mention of another crime that happened almost a month before this baby disappeared?

2.  He was 4 and playing outside in his own yard when he fell in the hole.  They reported him missing and searched for the baby and he was found in that hole two days later.  

3.  The ruled his death accidental but his mother is getting charged with negligent homicide.  

What say yall?  

How to Organize a Tiny Pantry

I currently have to use the world's most inefficient pantry.  I don't like clutter and the older I get...the worse this gets for me.  I know it doesn't bode well for my future peace of mind but oh well.  What can I do?  *sigh*

The door is 18 inches wide.  

*BLINK*

There are only three shelves and the shelves aren't very deep.  

This is my problem.

 

 

12' wide and one piece.  The one I saw at Home Depot was two pieces attached with a c-hook so they've forever sway when you opened the door.

I just ordered this to hang on the door:  ClosetMaid Adjustable 8-Tier Wall and Door Rack, 12-Inch

And I ordered some more canisters and whatnot so I could stack stuff neatly.  I like these because they come with their own measuring cups and they are BPA free:  Sistema Klip It Bakery Container 

I love the canisters that clip.  The solid clunk makes me know it's airtight!

I love the canisters that clip.  The solid clunk makes me know it's airtight!

I'm kicking myself because I just ordered some stuff from The Container Store and had I thought about this before then I could have added to that order since the Elfa sale is going on currently and, as always during the sale, all Elfa components are 30% off.  I could have added some things ya know?  Oh well.  I hate shipping fees more than anything and I haven't the slightest reason why.  Crazy huh?

Do you have a pantry this size?  Any tips on how to utilize it properly?  What do you do so it doesn't drive you insane being a cluttered disorganized mess?