Stop charging me to attend your celebrations — #guestsdontpay
I discussed this article with some friends earlier today. One friend shared it with our group outraged because baaaaaaaaaby...this article is a mess.
It made me instantly feel some kinda way when I read it. See, I know that...in the words of one of my Elders, "Everybody's money don't spend the same." This means that you will probably have people in your life who you love who have more or less financial obligations, savings, liquidity than you do. Because of this...I have always been the type of person who had no problem with throwing a party at my home so there was no financial obligation present for us all to enjoy spending time together.
See...people are weak. If you are invited to a dinner you know you can't afford to pay for, have the guts to send your regrets. Simple. You are not obligated to attend. Your obligation should always be to how your money spends and nobody knows this better than YOU. You can miss out on some shit. Check Facebook or Instagram later. Somebody will have posted some pictures and you'll feel like you were there. Okay...that's bullshit...but still...use your damn words. Be a grownup. It is very easy to say, I can't make it. You don't have to give a reason why. If the person is truly someone who loves you, however, I'd suggest letting them know that the reason you can't attend is because a night out isn't in your budget and I bet you, 9 times out of 10, they will figure out a way for you to join them to celebrate somehow. Be it drinks after work soon or just lunch or dinner at the crib.
People who love you want to spend time with you. Don't make it about money. Say you can't go, but figure out something you CAN do together soon.
Stuff your pride and the ridiculous arrogance of this article in a hole out back somewhere. Seriously. Adult better. Whine less. Everything ain't 'boutchu. Stop acting like it is. Being a victim is sooooooooooooooo pre-Obama.
Love,
Monnie