Compromising in a Relationship

A framily member and I were discussing happy marriages and compromising.  Curious as to what some of you think of a particular scenario.

Being happily married means that both people feel like they always consider the other during times when compromise is necessary but...what if there is no clear compromise for one person?  What if the only thing that will make one person happy completely goes against what the other person wants?  How does that resolve itself in your opinion?  I mean sure...you'd want your spouse to be happy but never at the cost of you being unhappy right?

For example...

Someone wanted to build a house the size of a castle.

Their spouse did not.

They built the house the size of a castle.

Three years later, the castle was up for sale because they were getting a divorce.

They were getting a divorce because the spouse hated the house and that what they wanted was never taken into consideration while building the house.  And the cost of the house was so far outside of what they knew they could afford but the one spouse felt they could never say anything or the other spouse would be unhappy.

So yeah...that never really worked itself out.

Is it honestly selfish to really just want what you want because if you compromise you'll never truly get what you want?  

Coffee Comfort

I was talking to someone the other day when I remembered I needed to put in an order for another 5lb bag of the coffee we prefer to drink.  She then asked me a question that I ended up thinking about later.

“Do you really love coffee that much or do you simply love the ritual of morning coffee?””

At the time I told her that I really enjoyed my coffee but now I'm sitting here wondering if what she said had any merit to it as I'm an extremely habitual person.  When I don't have my morning coffee I'm not in much of a good mood but...what if it's not because of the actual COFFEE and has more to do with my being a creature of habit and my morning didn't start off normally?

What do YOU think?  Is it the coffee for you or...is it the RITUAL?  

Should She Be Charged?

There are more than a few things that irked me about this entire story.  

1.  The caption on that picture.  Why is it necessary to make mention of another crime that happened almost a month before this baby disappeared?

2.  He was 4 and playing outside in his own yard when he fell in the hole.  They reported him missing and searched for the baby and he was found in that hole two days later.  

3.  The ruled his death accidental but his mother is getting charged with negligent homicide.  

What say yall?  

How to Organize a Tiny Pantry

I currently have to use the world's most inefficient pantry.  I don't like clutter and the older I get...the worse this gets for me.  I know it doesn't bode well for my future peace of mind but oh well.  What can I do?  *sigh*

The door is 18 inches wide.  

*BLINK*

There are only three shelves and the shelves aren't very deep.  

This is my problem.

 

 

12' wide and one piece.  The one I saw at Home Depot was two pieces attached with a c-hook so they've forever sway when you opened the door.

I just ordered this to hang on the door:  ClosetMaid Adjustable 8-Tier Wall and Door Rack, 12-Inch

And I ordered some more canisters and whatnot so I could stack stuff neatly.  I like these because they come with their own measuring cups and they are BPA free:  Sistema Klip It Bakery Container 

I love the canisters that clip.  The solid clunk makes me know it's airtight!

I love the canisters that clip.  The solid clunk makes me know it's airtight!

I'm kicking myself because I just ordered some stuff from The Container Store and had I thought about this before then I could have added to that order since the Elfa sale is going on currently and, as always during the sale, all Elfa components are 30% off.  I could have added some things ya know?  Oh well.  I hate shipping fees more than anything and I haven't the slightest reason why.  Crazy huh?

Do you have a pantry this size?  Any tips on how to utilize it properly?  What do you do so it doesn't drive you insane being a cluttered disorganized mess?  

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DUECES BIOTCH!

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This damn plant has been placed in every window in this house.  It has been fertilized, allowed to dry until the dirt pulls in, wet throughout, dribbled on, soaked sitting just the bottom of it in water for 30 minutes, etc.  and it STILL keeps dropping healthy leaves like it's so damn miserable and has lost it's will to live.  The last thing I read was that the poor dear might need a specialized grow lamp like this one:  Hydrofarm JSV2 2-Foot Jump Start T5 Grow Light System

$60 light for a plant I paid $8 for two years ago.  

I'm two seconds away from snatching this little shit up out that damn filigree planter and chunking it in the outside garbage can.  I'd walk away from that shit like this yelling "DUECES BIOTCH!"

Yeah...it's like that and that's the way it is.

HOOOAH!